Sad Loss for Me

[idratherbeinwdw]

I know many of my DVC friends were aware that my dad has been very ill. He took a turn for the worse about 10 days ago and passed away this morning. Ironically enough it was almost 6 years to the day that my mother died--the anniversary of her death was yesterday.

He was 90 and lived a good life, but it's still so hard to say goodbye.
I am devestated but at the same time relieved. He was so out of it, his mind was almost gone from alzheimer's. This last week he was totally uncommunicative. He went from being "not that bad" (he knew who I was, even though he forgot much else), to being semi-comatose in a short time.

I won't be around much today, I am meeting my sister to make arrangements for the funeral and take care of other things we need to do.

RIP Dad, he was a wonderful father.

[newjerseynick]

We are sorry for your loss, Mar. :(
:hug1:

Nick and Barbie

[Colorado Belle]

Dear Mar,
I am so sorry for your Ioss and am sending thoughts and prayers . I'm so happy that you had so many years with your good dad and so many memories to cherish, but the Ioss of a parent aIways Ieaves a sadness in the heart. Take care

[DisneyGeek]

He took a turn for the worse about 10 days ago and passed away this morning.

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his mind was almost gone from alzheimer's.

I'm sorry to hear about your loss. Good luck in the upcoming times after the inital shock wears off. My grandfather suffered from alzheimers and I know the downward slide you are talking about. In fact, I was at the 'World when I got the call from my parents last October.

Cherish the happy memories!

[DVC Mike]

Sorry for your loss. Condolences to you and your family during this difficult time.

[RoccoP72]

I'm sorry to hear about the loss of your father Mar. Sending thoughts and prayers your way.
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[Rozzie]

Sending as many hugs as I can your way. You were a very devoted daughter and did everything you could to make this last journey of his comfortable for him. I hope all the warm memories that you have together will comfort you in this time. :hug1:

[7swans]

:hug1:
It is so difficult because it is so final, but it is a comfort that your Dad had such a long life & that you were close to him.

[MatterhornMiss]

I'm sorry, Mar. :hug1: I'm glad your father has peace now. :hug1: :hug1:

[donald is #1]

Mar, I'm so sorry for your loss. :hug1: My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

[KNWVIKING 2.0]

So sorry for your loss Mar. Mill and I will being praying for you and yours.

[kimmygme]

So sorry to hear Mar!:hug1:Went through this with my aunt. My prayers and thoughts to you and your family.

[nono]

:hug1: Mar...

Never easy. You and your family are in my thoughts.

[ghost1000]

Mar'

What can I say that hasn't already been said. I'm so sorry for your loss.

[ffpmme]

Mar, I am so sorry. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. :hug1:

[KevinZ]

Sorry for your loss, Mar. Our prayers and thoughts with you and your family.

[idratherbeinwdw]

Thank you all for the thoughts and prayers as well as your words of wisdom and understanding. I am sorry that so many others here have experienced the alzheimers and the pain of losing a parent or loved one. Thank you for sharing those personal memories.

My sister and I spent the day making arrangements and phone calls. Both her daughter and my older daughter were along to help out. It's been a hell of a day, but my family is close and we all have one another to lean on. Tomorrow we go clean out my dad's place (he was in an assisted living apt), and the funeral is Tuesday.

My dad was an amatuer actor and a great story teller. He wrote songs and poems for all of us in the family at one time or another. He also made up really cool stories for us when we were kids, that he would act out as he told. He may be gone but he has left quite a legacy behind, and we will pass the songs and stories on to the next generation.

[Sparrowsprincess]

So sorry for your loss!!!!!

[KNWVIKING 2.0]

My dad was an amatuer actor and a great story teller. He wrote songs and poems for all of us in the family at one time or another. He also made up really cool stories for us when we were kids, that he would act out as he told. He may be gone but he has left quite a legacy behind, and we will pass the songs and stories on to the next generation.

Sounds like you had a pretty cool dad, Mar.

[susandfam]

Sorry about your loss, Mar. It sounds like your dad was great.

[jrbdad]

Mar-

Sorry about your loss. You & your family are in my prayers.
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[kathyseb]

Mar',
I am so sorry for your loss. Know that my heart is breaking for you and your family.

:hug1:
Kathy

[TimK]

Sorry for your loss, Mar. God bless.

[Stitch]

So sorry Mar. It's nice you had him as long as you did.

[jiggerj]

I am so sorry for your loss of your Dad Mar. Sending lots of hugs and prayers to you and the girls. :hug1:

[Niki]

Mar, Big hugs to you. Cherish the memories of the happy times together. I know you have a lot to do, just make sure you take care of yourself. It is so easy sometimes to get lost in all the arrangements you have to make. Take some time to decompress, take a bubble bath and rejuvenate. Also know all your DVC friends have you in our prayers.
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[AFMom]

Mar - your dad sounds amazing. I'm sorry he's gone - and I know what an emotional rollercoaster you must be on right now. :hug1: If anyone is able - telling one of those stories tomorrow would be so special. But I can imagine it would be hard to get through the telling.
Hang in there.:hug1:

[idratherbeinwdw]

Thank you all for making a terrible time a little less awful.

He was a really cool Dad Kenny, and you're right Tom, I was fortunate to have him as long as I did. Kristy I pulled out all the songs he wrote for me and my girls last night and we were singing them together. I have a tape of him telling one of his stories (of course now I realize I should have taped more), and we took that out but we weren't ready to watch it yet.

I so very much appreciate the love and support from everyone who has posted here. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for taking the time to give me your condolences and offer comforting words.

[RoccoP72]

I have a tape of him telling one of his stories
Any thought to playing them during a memorial?

[mickeyndvcfan]

Mar, so sorry for your loss. You and your family will be in my thoughts and paryers.:hug1:

[BrerKaren]

So sorry for your loss, Mar. My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family.

[MrsNick]

Dear Mar, I am so sorry for your loss :( My prayers go to you and your family.

[matysgranma]

Oh, Mar, I'm so, so sorry to hear of your dads' passing. I know it's been hard for you for quite some time now. Always know just how much he loved you, because I know for sure that he knew just how much you loved him.
Tom and I will have you and yours in our hearts and prayers. Know that we all love you here.

[aamove1]

Mar, So sorry for your loss. We will keep you and yours in our prayers.

[Zach Skellington]

Oh, I'm so sorry, Mar. I'll be thinking of you and your family.

[PoohsPal]

Hope things continue to go as well as they can. I am so verry sorry for your loss. :hug1:

[lllovell]

Mar,

I just wanted to pass along that I am thinking of you and your family. I am glad you had such a wonderful father and so long with him. I know it is never long enough but I hope you are able to find comfort in your memories.

*hugs*

Laura

[kathyseb]

Mar',
Was thinking of you and your family today.

Stay strong.

:hug1:

Kathy

[doombuggy]

M ~ I am so sorry for your loss. My grampa had Altzheimer's and died from it in 2002. The disease is very frustrating to all parties.

I am glad that you had many years w/your dad. I know he's in a better place and is whole again w/ your mom.

Prayers, hugs & pixie dust to you and your family. :hug1:

[idratherbeinwdw]

Thanks again for all of the heartfelt and loving comments. The funeral was yesterday, so I wasn't in any state of mind to reply until now.

We tried to make the funeral more a celebration of his life than sadness over his death and I think we succeeded for the most part. All the grandkids spoke, as did my sister, her DH and me. We had solemn things to say, but we also had many fun comments about him, as he was a really fun guy. Two of the grandkids wrote poems that they read at the service. I thought that was so appropriate, as my dad was well known for his family poetry.

We went back to my sister's after the burial and talked about the stories he wrote and how much fun it was to not only listen to him tell them, but to watch him act them out and hear the sound effects he invariably added. My dad's sister's are in their 80's, but they are in good health, so they were able to be there too and tell lots of stories about their brother from when they were growing up.

All in all, although it was a sad day, I would say there was more smiling than there were tears. He lived almost 91 years, was happily married to my mom for over 60 of those years, had three daughters who adored him, a very active social life, travelled all over the world with my mom, volunteered for countless organizations, starred in numerous local theater productions, made it through WW2 (was awarded the bronze star), and more. I will miss him forever, but he had a full and satisfiying life, and when I think of that I have to smile.

[MaryPA]

So very sorry for your loss. Our thoughts and prayers are with you.

[worldfanatic]

Just saw this post for the first time.
So sorry for your loss Mar.

[Rash]

My sincere condolences.

[athenna]

Oh, Mar' I am so sorry for your loss:hug1: